I love the quote by Jon Kabat-Zinn: “Emotions are like waves. Watch them come and go, without getting caught in the undertow.” This idea encourages us to acknowledge emotions rather than suppress them. Rather than simply welcoming our temporary visitors, we often buy into a common myth: When stress hits, we should just “power through”…

Spring isn’t just for tidying up our homes—it’s a chance to refresh every part of our lives. Just as we clear out clutter and clean windows to let in more light, we should do the same for our minds, relationships, workspaces, and daily routines. A messy desk can cloud your thinking, just as an overflowing…

I don’t have a single client who isn’t rearranging the deck chairs at least once a year in some way. Org charts and responsibilities change often, and we wonder if the “reorgs” will ever stop. (Hint: After twenty-five years of doing this, I think the answer is no.) The art of influencing continues to be…

People-pleasing is one of the fastest ways to lose yourself. We grow up believing that harmony is the goal—that keeping the peace means saying yes when we want to say no, softening our edges so others don’t feel uncomfortable, and putting everyone else’s needs ahead of our own. (Check out my post about navigating conflict.)…

Interpersonal conflicts in teams are inevitable. Throw together diverse personalities, competing priorities, and the stress of deadlines, and sparks are bound to fly. But here’s the thing: Conflict isn’t the problem. Avoiding it is. Consider this scenario that I’ve seen all too often: A team leader noticed that one of their team members was consistently…

As we kick off a new year, millions of us are setting goals, intentions, or resolutions—roughly 66 percent of Americans, to be exact. Yet, the statistics paint a grim picture. By midyear, fewer than half will have stuck to their resolutions, and by December, only 9 percent will have achieved their goals.  That means that…

What if the key to achieving everything you want this year isn’t about setting bigger goals—but learning to embrace discomfort? As we step into the new year, let’s shift our focus from setting lofty goals to building something even more foundational: our capacity to sit with a new mindset or practice. Goals and intentions are…

Safe Ways to Test Your Discomfort One of my favorite leaders that I’m working with right now, a president of a very large division, shared something with me years ago that stuck. He said he strives to feel uncomfortable every single day. Why? Because he doesn’t want to get too complacent. He’s made it a…

There’s so much we try to accomplish given all the hats we wear that we sometimes forget to practice self-care. We succumb to the myth that we have to do it all while forsaking our mental well-being. Here are seven types of boundaries and examples of how you might express them as you enter into…

Have you ever stopped to consider how many teams you work with on a given day at home, in your community, and at work? Studies suggest that 70 to 80 percent of our time at work is spent in teams or participating in collaborative activities, such as meetings, brainstorming sessions, and problem-solving.  While it’s important…