There’s so much we try to accomplish given all the hats we wear that we sometimes forget to practice self-care. We succumb to the myth that we have to do it all while forsaking our mental well-being. Here are seven types of boundaries and examples of how you might express them as you enter into this busy time of year, thanks to PositivePsychology.com. Consider how you might adapt and personalize the sample phrases for work and life.
- Mental: Freedom to have your own thoughts, values, and opinions. (I respect your perspective, although I don’t agree. Here’s why…)
- Emotional: How emotionally available you are to others. (As much as I want to support you, I don’t have the emotional bandwidth right now.)
- Material: Monetary decisions about giving or lending to others. (I already lent money to you/someone last week, so I can’t this time. I’m glad you felt comfortable enough to ask me.)
- Internal: Self-regulation, energy expended on self versus others. (I have been social all week; I need the weekend to myself.)
- Conversational: Topics that you do and do not feel comfortable discussing. (This is a tough topic for me; I would rather not be a part of this conversation at this time.)
- Physical: Privacy, personal space, your body. (Thanks, but I prefer not to hug people I don’t know.)
- Time: How much time you spend with someone or doing something. (Thank you so much for asking me to join you; I can stay for only thirty minutes.)
Remember that protecting your boundaries is an act of self-care, not selfishness. Honoring them allows you to show up as your best self, not just for others but for yourself too. Use this time to reflect on what you need, communicate it clearly, and prioritize your well-being amidst the hustle and bustle. By embracing these seven boundaries, you’re not only setting limits—you’re creating space for joy, peace, and a more intentional way to navigate this season. Let boundaries be the gift you give yourself this year.
